Five Things You Shouldn’t Do at a Family Counseling
Life is full of ups and downs and everyone has to battle with their fair share of challenges. It is only when we learn to handle the highs and lows the right way that we get to lead a happy life. However, it does not come easy. More so when the lows or problems come from your close quarters. Yes, we are talking about problems in a family. While every family has its disagreements, there are a few that stand out as exceptions. The disagreements and arguments make it difficult for people to live under the same roof.
That’s when you might have to consider professional intervention to resolve the issues and embrace a harmonious lifestyle. Remember that there is no stigma with visiting a counselor or getting therapy. At the end of the day, nothing matters more than the emotional and mental health of you and your family. So, if things seem to be slipping out of hand, do not hesitate or think twice before visiting a therapist. However, while you are at it, here are a few mistakes that you should avoid while going for a family counseling session.
Make Sure Your Family Is on the Same Page About Counseling
When you decide to take your family for a counseling session, it is important that it is not just your decision alone. Talk it out to every member who would be there at the counseling session and explain to them why you took this decision. Make sure you evaluate the pros and cons of family counseling and ensure they are all on the same page. If your family attends counseling because you asked them to, and not because they want to, everyone’s time would go down the drain, and so would your money. So, make sure everyone is on the same page about it and are willing to give therapy a shot!
Do Not Point Fingers
Well, you are attending therapy with your family and that is an obvious sign that there are disagreements among family members. However, that does not mean you should hold one person responsible for all that’s going wrong. When family members gang up against one person or start pointing fingers, it drives away the whole purpose of trying to harmoniously solve the problems.
While it is important to express your thoughts freely and without hesitation, think about the goal of this activity. Do you want to hurt a particular member of your family or change the way they behave? If changing them is what you seek, try to put out your thoughts in a more considerate and organized fashion. Instead of talking about what the other person does or thinks, talk about how it made you feel.
Do Not Withhold Emotions
Well, it might not seem like the right thing to do, crying about your family and problems to a stranger. However, isn’t that the primary reason for you to attend therapy? So, let go of your inhibitions and express your emotions without holding back. This will let the therapist get a clear understanding of the problem, identify the real issue, and offer amicable solutions.
Do Not Take Sides
If you are in a blended family, problems are natural to occur. If that’s the reason you are attending family counseling, be careful not to take sides. However, this is not just the case with blended families. For instance, if your children do not get along, or you do not get along with your spouse, it is important to make sure nobody takes sides.
When you take the sides in a family argument at the therapist, you might lead the therapist to form a biased opinion, too. While a therapist is expected to stay neutral, as a human, it is only normal for them to end up forming an uncontrolled bias. One might argue that the therapist as a professional should be able to withhold themselves better.
While that’s an argument for another day, it is important for you as an individual to stay away from picking favorites or taking sides in an argument.
We hope these tips were helpful and will come in handy while you approach a therapist for a family counseling session. And remember, when you go for therapy, you need not go there as a family every single time. So, if you have been having problems in your family and you have been pushing away counseling as an option as everyone isn’t available, think again!
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