How To Become A Good Father?

Family CounselingOctober 1, 2021

What does it mean to be a father? The art of fatherhood is constantly going through an evolution. In today’s times, families are getting more and more diverse. If you ask a father today, he will probably inform you that a father-son or a father-daughter relation in the present times is a lot different than the relationship he shared with his old man. But whatever the case is, being a dad has never been easy. Irrespective of what age their child is or how many children they have, a father knows pretty well that his work is never over. If you want to be a good father, you have to stay beside your kid, be empathetic towards them, teach them by example, stop being a pushover, and be a role model for them. The following steps might help you on your journey.

Devote Time to Your Kids

Whether you have been promoted at your workplace, bought an expensive house, or purchased a brand-new four-wheeler, your kids will always be least interested. What they care about is whether you will be back home in time so that they can have dinner with you. They are more interested in knowing if you will take them to their favorite movie on the weekend or accompany them to a baseball game.

If you want to be a good father, you have to make time for your children. It doesn’t matter how busy you are throughout the week. All your kid asks for is your company. So, arrange your schedule accordingly. If you are too tired to sneak out time for them, plan to do something else so that they can feel they are important to you.

Give Them Important Lessons

Spend time with your kid and teach them the important lessons of life. Help them to use the washroom, teach them how to brush their teeth, help them ride a bike, and teach them to drive a car at an appropriate time. Your aim should be to help them learn how to perform their tasks on their own. Remember, it’s your responsibility to teach them all the small things and the big lessons of life.

You can split teaching the basic lessons with your co-parent. As parents, you guys should help your kids learn from their mistakes. If they do something that’s not right, tell them why and show them how they can rectify themselves to avoid any wrongdoing in the future. If you punish them, they won’t realize where they have gone wrong. When you are criticizing your child, make sure that you don’t sound harsh. Your child should develop a feeling of self-esteem and you should make it a point never to hurt that.

Communicate with Them

Being parents, your job is to be present by your child’s side during the crucial moments of their lives. Similarly, communicating with them from time to time holds a lot of importance. Being a dad, you have to figure out what they are going through and what’s troubling them. You don’t have to do something special for your children every time. Just sitting with them and being supportive of them makes a lot of difference.

They should have the feeling that you love them and care for them. If your children are in their teens or college, they might feel a little uncomfortable sharing every minute detail of their life with you. However, ensure that you keep a track of whatever is going on in their lives. Your child should realize that their father is always with them under any circumstance.

Plan Trips

A good father should always make time to take their kids out on a trip. It could be a fishing trip, an outing to the beach, or even a camping adventure. Whichever trip you decide to take them on, the main priority should be to make your little one feel special. Make the moments memorable for them. Help them enjoy their hearts out. Choose something that you can repeat once or twice a year. It hardly matters if your co-parent is accompanying you. You can always create a solo bond with your children. Also, plan a trip so that your children can have something fun and exciting to look forward to.

Never shout at or hit your children. Aside from them getting physically hurt, the emotional distance between you and your kids will increase. That’s never good for a father.