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Parental Control: Handling Troubled Teenagers

There is simply no perfect recipe when it comes to parenting, especially if your children are transitioning to teenagers, which is considered to be one of the most difficult stages, for both the parents and the teens themselves. Every parent knows that there is literally no step-by-step guide when it comes to parenting, there are different styles for every situation.
Your teen is not the only one learning about the world, but you are as a parent as well. Being a parent of a child is not easy, and being a parent of a teenager, is probably the most difficult job in the world, it is either you fail or you succeed, there no in between. There are no perfect parents, so it is definitely alright to make mistakes, as long as you learn from them and make it right, it wouldn’t just benefit your teen, but also yourself as a parent. So here are some incredibly helpful tips when it comes to dealing with a troubled teen.
[su_quote class=”cust-pagination”]“Giving teens a chance to establish their own identity, giving them more independence, is essential to helping them establish their own place in the world. But if it means he’s going out with a bad crowd, that’s another thing.” – David Elkind, Ph.D., a professor of child development at Tufts University School of Medicine in Boston, and author of All Grown Up and No Place to Go[/su_quote]

START EARLY

Parenting starts the moment your child was born, how you raise will obviously affect the way they see things in this world. There is no perfect way to raise a child, it can be extremely tough especially if it is your first time.

Keep in mind that you are the one molding your children’s way of living and thinking, so you better start at an early age. First and foremost, if you’re going to be setting some rules in the house, make sure that your child knows why he or she is doing it, as they grow older, they will understand more about it.

Your children will look up to you since you are their model figure in life, the way you treat them is always the way they will treat people including you.

Once you have a teenager, remember what you are like and how you are raised when you were at that age, that would make you have a deeper understanding of what they are going through. Remember what are the things that your parents made you do or don’t allow you to do. Teenagers are incredibly difficult to deal with, so make sure that you and your teen are on the same page.

COMMUNICATION IS KEY

One of the best possible ways when it comes to dealing with your teen is to communicate with them. Start as early as pre-school age, make them understand that it is perfectly alright to tell you everything and that they can trust you. If you have done this before they become teenagers, chances are, you will have an easier way getting them, you know what it feels like a teen, so you know how great it is to be able to be open with your parents since you know they only want what’s best for you. However, if you only realize it now that you should’ve communicated with your child long before they become teenagers, it may be a little too difficult getting to them now.

Teenagers who are not used to talking to their parents when it comes to serious and personal matters, tend to build a wall that is extremely hard to break, but there is always a door. Keep in mind that you should knock on that door, give them the power to let you in slowly, because if you force them to open that door or if you picked the lock just to get in, they would feel attacked and invaded.
Share your experiences and mistakes when you were a teen yourself, let him or her now what you learned and the things that you wish you did and didn’t do. Teenagers are most likely to open up to you if they know that you would actually understand them, instead of reprimanding them or forbidding them to do things. A simple “how’s your day at school? What happened?” is a great start. Communication could fix everything, but at the same time, miscommunication could also ruin anything. Assure them that they could ask you anything that they want to know about certain things.

KEEP YOUR MIND OPEN

If you have a good communication relationship with your teen, then it would be easy for them to let you in his or her world. This generation is way different compared to the previous ones. A teenager’s world nowadays, revolve around social media and technology. So you have to keep up or else you wouldn’t be able to understand them, that could lead to miscommunication. The first thing you should do is set some rules when it comes to gadgets, you simply can’t get your teen a phone just because they want it. Have a serious talk with them about things that they can and can’t do, make sure that they understand what is going to happen if they break a certain rule.

GIVE THEM THE AMOUNT OF FREEDOM THEY DESERVE

This is basically what every teenager want most. The best thing that you can do is to make them understand that privacy and freedom are privileges. Let them know that you trust them not to do anything to lose that privilege, set some rules in the house. For instance, if you have a teenage daughter, she is not allowed to bring a guy inside her room or that the door must be kept open at all times when she has someone around. If she breaks that rule, make her understand why it is important to follow your rules and that she just lost her privilege, but can always gain it back.

 


There you have it, if you’re still having trouble with your teen, you can always ask for a friend’s or better yet your own parents’ advice, since they have been in your situation. Let us know in the comments how this article actually helped you out.

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