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Are Your Fantasies Leading You To The Wrong Direction?

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It is not wrong to dream, but you can get really frustrated if you end up in a different path. You should know the difference between fact and fiction when getting into long term plans. You might be expecting too much of yourself that you have inadvertently driven yourself down the wrong way. It’s time to ask yourself: are your fantasies getting the best you?

Never Make Assumptions

Making assumptions will get you into trouble. At work, many managers or supervisors get into deep trouble when they are too quick to assume that a buyer, coworker or superior knows what they are talking about, without even taking steps to look into it. Thus, it is very important for you to get into context in whatever you do.

Never fall into the trap of always assuming that people around you have the same understanding of a situation or task. Every person has their own independent thinking and you just cannot expect everyone to think like you. When you have a proposal, always start a conversation about it where all parties openly discuss matters about how a goal should be accomplished or how a situation has to be tackled.

Know What You Are Good At

Big goals take a lot of time and resources to complete and no matter how smart or rich you are, you are more likely to end up as the majority of people with same goals end up. If you want to be a doctor or lawyer, that will take you at least eight years and a lot of hard work. All that is not going to change no matter who you are.

However, just because you are not that good at a certain matter, it does not mean that you no longer have any hopes of achieving your dreams. Large goals have been attained before, but you would have to adjust depending on what you have been given.

Always Keep on Communicating

Miscommunication is one of the most common sources of frustrations. While you cannot expect people to think like you all the time, you might not also be aware that the real problem was a lack of communication. You should communicate with everyone on a regular basis and establish a connection with one another. Remember, there is no such thing as over communication.

This might mean more work, but this is important if you and the people around you are not really that associated with one another. You have to establish and develop leadership in such situation. This keeps everyone in check and lets everybody connect and this could mean less frustration later on.

You Will Fail at Some Point

Failure is something that you cannot just avoid. In today’s world, hard work is not enough for you to get everything you want. Even the most successful people have failed and can fail. Some people are just better in rising back up while others make it look easy.

Your expectations can collide with reality at some point. This can be very frustrating if you were out of touch with reality, to begin with. There will be times that you will lose and you just have to prepare yourself for that event. When such time comes, you should also be in control.

Learn to Bounce Back

Insurance companies have risen to be among some of the most profitable and lucrative companies. It is not too rare for an insurance company to operate in several continents nowadays and be worth billions of dollars. This is because these companies capitalize on the risk of failure. Since people do not want to fail or lose something, they insure it. However, not everything in life is insurable. Sometimes, you have to bounce back on your own.

Distinguished author John Maxwell says that “every setback is an opportunity for a comeback.” True enough, this is how most interesting books and movies are made. If you fail, it is not the end of everything. You can use such failure as another opportunity for better things.

Everyone Has Their Own Problems

“Don’t you know what I’m going through?” Well, no. When you think that you are going through a lot, you also have to keep in mind that your problems are not everyone’s problems. You might communicate your needs and expect to be taken care of, but the reality is, your problems are yours alone. If you are too stressed at work or at school, people who did not force you to get there would not benefit from your suffering, so why should they care?

When you get too entitled, you are bound for the worst frustrations ever. Entitlement is cancer that can destroy the life and purpose within you and this is something you should deal with heavily.

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