5 Things You Should Never Tell Your Children
There is no such thing as perfect parenting, every parent knows that. There are even times where parents believe that they’re actually doing what is best for their children, even if they’re actually doing it for their own without realizing it. There are also times when parents say things that they didn’t know could actually affect their children for the rest of their life.
Which is why in this article, we have come up with different phrases that parents should not say to their children. It is important for you, as a parent, to know the these things because these simple phrases could damage your children emotionally and mentally, surely you wouldn’t want that, so here are some of the things that parents should never tell their children.
#1 “Why can’t you be more like…?”
This phrase has got to be one of the worst things to ever say to any of your kids. Whether you mean it or not, whether you said it out of anger or frustration, there is just no excuse for it. These things can actually be considered as a minor verbal abuse especially if you do it often. This phrase in particular, would mean that you are comparing your child to another person, and that you wish for them to be that person because obviously, they’re not good enough for you. Comparing your child to another person, like another child from next door or to their siblings, is something that you should never do. Instead of saying that, try using some words of encouragement, and that it is okay to make mistakes as long as they learn from them.
#2 “I promise.”
Another common phrase parents say to their kids is this phrase that means so much, but would mean so little if used in the wrong way. To young ones, promises are something very important, and breaking a promise is a bad thing that causes betrayal. Never promise anything to children especially if you know it’s not going to happen, instead say the words, ‘we’ll see’, or ‘we’ll try’, or ‘I’ll consider it’. That way they wouldn’t hope for it that much.
#3 “Because I said so.”
Almost every angry, frustrated, annoyed parent said this phrase at east once. Saying it most of the time is not actually healthy for the parent-child relationship and it sends the children the idea that they don’t have any right to do anything or to make any choice. Children are learning from every action and every word that come out of their parents’ mouths, saying this phrase is like letting them know that they don’t deserve any explanation. If you can’t help yourself, just make sure that when you calmed yourself down, you’re going to explain everything to them.
#4 “Shut up!”
If you have done this before, don’t do it again, if you haven’t, don’t even try. This is not a matter of parenting style anymore, because no parent should say this to their children.
Shutting them up in this rude manner just teaches them that it is okay to do it, and worse is that it tells them that they don’t have the right to say what they have to say. You are letting them know and feel that whatever it is they have to say are not important, and that you are not willing to listen.
#5 “I’m right, you’re wrong!”
Finally, the famous phrase from the classic film, Matilda. Most parents still use this phrase which is not exactly the way it is supposed to be said, because this would send a message to children that adults do everything right, and that children are always wrong.
Parenting styles may be a personal thing and that it always depend on how you want your children to be raised, but keep in mind that there is no perfect way to do it, so being open-minded will help you a lot.
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