Five Things That Will Help Improve Communication Between You and Your Children
Parenting is an extremely gratifying job. Watching your child grow up in front of your eyes, doing well in life, and becoming a good person is something all parents want, but the road can be rocky, too. Bringing up a child is not exactly a stroll in the park. It requires a lot of patience, tenacity, and empathy. Being strict and disciplined is good, but it might not work for everyone. As kids grow up and experience puberty, teen angst is common. Making them see the right path during these years can be very tough. The only thing you can do is become that person to whom your child can open up fearlessly. It is easier said than done though. Hence, here are some tips that can help:
Don’t Be Judgmental
While judging others is something you should avoid for everyone, doing it for your kids is a must. When a child says something terrible or insulting, don’t react too harshly. Watch what you say because the words that will come out of your mouth will decide how your relationship will be with your child. Instead of lashing out, listen to them and try to understand where their anger is coming from. Listen to them while they pour out their sentiments. Try to understand their anger instead of judging, scolding, and making the whole situation more negative than it is.
Be Kind And Compassionate When Dealing With Others
Let your child see and understand how you deal with other people’s problems. If you are usually scolding people around you — being rude to the waiter, driver or salespeople — your child will start thinking that you might do the same to them. Show compassion and kindness to one and all. When your kids will see how compassionate you are to others, they will always come to you first when they are in a problem. Also, by doing this, you will be teaching them to be less judgmental about other people and be kind to them. There is no better way to teach others than by doing it yourself!
Don’t Punish Them
Children make mistakes, break rules, and rebel all the time. If you think punishing them will be good for them to discourage them from repeating their wrongdoings, you are wrong. Punishing kids will only give them the message that you are someone they should be afraid of; consequently, they will feel as if they cannot open up to you because of the fear that you have instilled in them. So instead of punishing them, let them understand that there will be logical and natural consequences. For example, if they bring their friends at home and make a big mess, let them clean it up; if they have done something wrong in school and you got an earful from their teacher, make them confess and apologize as well.
Learn To Appreciate Their Decisions
As a kid, they often make great decisions, so ensure that you let them know how you feel about them. In fact, celebrating their good deeds or great decisions will help them realize that they have done the right thing. Hence, they will always try to take similar decisions. At the same time, try to downplay their bad decisions. They are just kids — even adults make poor decisions at times. So, let them be, and if possible, try to correct their wrongdoings at a later time. Be gentle with them though.
Bond With Them
Teenagers don’t really like spending time with their parents. They would much rather hang out with kids of their age. If you are worried that you are not spending enough time with them, try to do the things they love doing. Playing baseball with them, going on a shopping trip, or even better, travel with them. When you do that, you are showing an interest in what they love doing. This will, itself, melt some ice and break down walls. You can also tell them about the stories of your own childhood. They would love to know how you were as a young kid. Keep it real, and tell them about your good deeds and bad ones. Make sure you also tell them why you think those were bad decisions.
When you keep doing these on a regular basis, your child can come up to you for any issues they are facing. Recent research shows that becoming your child’s friend is not a great idea. Well, if not a friend, you can become a mentor for sure. Just make sure to promote and encourage a positive environment at home.
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