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Tips & Tricks: Disciplining Toddlers To Teenagers

Most people who don’t have children think that taking care of a baby is the most difficult thing in the world as a parent because babies must be taken care of almost 24/7, they always cry, they always want to be held, and more. Some people think it is such a nuisance, but what they actually don’t know is that taking care of a baby may be indeed exhausting, but raising it as a person is actually way more difficult.

There is no perfect way to raise a child, everyone’s parenting style is different, some are good and some are not that bad, but there is just no perfect way to do it. One of the most difficult things to do when you raise a child is when you need to discipline them.

A child is still learning since they’re still growing up, they have so much to learn, but how exactly will you guide them into the right path? It just gets even more difficult as they grow older. So here are a couple of tips and tricks you can try when disciplining your children according to their age. Keep in mind that this is a trial and error process, and not everything will work on every child.

DISCIPLINING TODDLERS (2-4 years)

• Praise them for every good behavior

Toddlers are considered as grown up babies, so disciplining is something that they still wouldn’t understand. What they will understand though, is that when they do something that make you smile or laugh then you praise them for it, they will try to do it again.

If they do something naughty such as throw their food on the ground or purposely hurt their sibling, try removing them in the situation. If you are in a two-parent household, it is best to discuss this with your partner so that everything will work out in harmony, and so that that your child wouldn’t be confused in case you and your partner do things differently.

• Be patient and consistent

Sometimes, it is difficult for parents to say no, especially if your child is throwing a fit and just keep on crying. Being consistent on whatever type of disciplining you do will help them understand that they cannot get away with doing something naughty. It is also best to just calmly discipline them with nice words instead of being all upset and angry while yelling at them. Children at this age doesn’t have the cognitive capabilities to differentiate whether something is right or wrong, so yelling and screaming will only scare your child.

DISCIPLINING SCHOOL-KIDS (5-11 years)

• Make sure to set clear rules

This is considered to be the easiest age to discipline children, since they are already learning, and can definitely understand what is right or wrong, with parental guidance of course. That is why you may now set rules for your child, starting from the simple ones such as doing chores to how much time they’re allowed to use their electronics. Simply make sure that you explain every rule clearly, make them understand whatever consequences they’re going to face if they don’t do what they’re supposed to do.

• Time-out

It is totally inevitable to have a child who doesn’t follow the rules of the house, which would then result to a parent putting them on a time-out. It is basically where a child is put into a position they don’t want to be in but they don’t have a choice since they got into trouble. Most kids would cry and whine while being on a time-out, but parents must explain it to their children afterwards. They have to understand why their parents did that, so that they will stay out of trouble next time or simply obey their parents.

DISCIPLINING TEENAGERS (12-18 years)

• Include your teen when making the rules

Raising teenagers are considered to be most parents’ worst nightmare, especially teenagers of today. Every generation is different, but one thing stays the same: teenagers are just so excited to explore everything.

They’re at the stage where trying everything is so cool. That is why it is ideal to set some rules for your teen, but do it with them. This could make both parties understand each other’s points that would lead them to having an agreement over the rules. Taking away particular privileges, such as using mobile phones, and other electronics, if ever they do something extremely inappropriate and unacceptable.

• Discuss the issues

Keep an open mind and discuss everything with your teen, the more open they are to you, the easier it will be. Make sure to be their friend who they could always lean on to, but always remind them to respect you as their parent.
Miscommunication is one of the most common thing that strains a parent-child relationship, so no matter how old your child is, always let them know that you are doing these things for their own good.

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