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Common Parenting Misconceptions You Might Have

Being a parent has got to be the most difficult role a person could ever play in their entire life. It is a 24/7 job, no salary, no days off, it is a lifetime job, and it is a responsibility, but most parents say that it is all worth it at the end. Almost every parent would admit that there is just no perfect way to raise a child. There is no step by step instructions on how you’re going to do it. People with more than two children know that each of their children is different so that would mean that they go through different approach when it comes to raising them, and that is perfectly normal. Unfortunately, some people tend to try to raise their children to be perfect, and that doesn’t work out most of the time, because it is a fact that no one in this world is perfect, and no one will ever be. Parents are not perfect, so don’t expect your children to be. Here are a couple of misconceptions when it comes to parenting, maybe you could learn a thing or two whether you are a new parent or not, just keep in mind that it is okay to make mistakes on parenthood.

“It’s not only children who grow, parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun, all I can do is reach for it myself.” Joyce Maynard

MISCONCEPTION #1 – Tell Them The Truth At All Times

One of the most common misconception parents often make is that telling the truth about everything is something that they need to do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, in fact, your children could definitely learn from that behavior. However, you have got to consider how old your children are if they are in their teens then, by all means, tell them the truth about everything, but if they’re still kids, it is best to let them wander. Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, eventually they will know that these things are not real, but as a parent, you have to give them a chance to have an amazing imagination, because that is a nature of being young.

MISCONCEPTION #2 – Technology Is Bad For Kids

Another common misconception that parents believe is that technology is actually bad for children. It definitely has to be rephrased, too much technology without proper guidance is bad for kids. As a parent, you learn to adapt to your children’s generation, or else you wouldn’t be able to keep up and you’ll be left behind. Being able to adapt to the digital age will help you guide your children towards the good side of technology. You would know that technology must not be blamed for anything, as a parent, you are responsible for guiding your children when to you comes to using these gadgets and of course the internet. It is not ideal for little children to have their own mobile phones, it must also depend on how their character and behavior is. Guidance is what they need, and you must be the one to provide it, communicate with them well and make them understand why they need you to guide them.

MISCONCEPTION #3 – Parenting Comes Naturally

It is a fact that every person in this world can be a parent, whether it is biologically yours or not. Being a parent means that you would dedicate your entire life guiding and molding another person and help them get into the right path of life, and at the same time be there for them for the rest of their life. However, parenting doesn’t actually come naturally. There are some people who fail because they didn’t think they could actually do the job, and this is a job where you simply cannot quit.

MISCONCEPTION #4 – Children Only Needs Love And Attention

Children do need some love and attention, but that’s obviously not the only thing that they need. As a parent, you must let them know that you respect them as a person so they could do it to others as well. As a parent, you must give them the privilege of having privacy. There are tons of things that you could teach your children for them to be able to apply

“Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big, because, to them, all of it has always been a big stuff.”   Catherine M. Wallace

 #5 – Parents Are Always Right

This has got to be the most common misconception parents make, and that is letting their children know that they are always right. This actually would mean that parents do everything right, that they are perfect, they don’t do anything wrong, that’s basically what it means to children, which is not how it’s supposed to be.

Parents make tons of mistakes and there are times that you have to actually apologize to your children about it, to teach them that it is actually okay to make mistakes, that they have to own it and apologize for it. It teaches them to be humble which is a right thing.

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